So often we think how we feel is because of how other people behave, at work, at home, when we are out with friends.

I used to think relationships were supposed to be easy when you found the right person.
But what I’ve learned is that relationships reveal you — they don’t fix you.

Have you ever noticed how certain thoughts just seem to stick? That low hum of “I’m not doing enough” or “I should be further ahead by now” that loops in the background of your day?

Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same frustrating patterns—procrastinating, people-pleasing, second-guessing, or struggling to follow through on what you know you want?

“It will be better when”…is one of the most insidious lies we tell ourselves.

If your downtime isn’t restoring you, you’re not doing it wrong — you’re approaching it wrong.

You don’t waste perfect sailing conditions planning your route—you do it when the wind is no longer behind you. The same goes for meetings.

High-performing professionals aren’t running out of time. They’re running out of mental bandwidth.

We all get the same 24 hours. Some people get more done, feel present, and end the day energized. Others feel exhausted, behind, and disconnected.

The difference isn’t time—it’s capacity.

When I thought that the year of fighting cancer was better than how I spent the last 6 months, I knew something had to change.

So many of us feel as though we are in a rut. Helpless and at the mercy of our lives.

You take yourself with you. It’s a truth I didn’t fully understand until I moved to New York… and found myself stressed out over a bad Yelp review in a temporary bar job.

So often we don’t even realise the feelings that dominate our day and the impact they have on our lives.

Self confidence isn’t something we are born with, it is something we create.

We so often block ourselves from what we truly want, when we don’t look at what doing that thing is really costing us.

One of the biggest challenges I see in goal achievement — whether it’s in your career, your relationships, your wellbeing, or personal development — is that most programs only address the actions you need to take. They rarely address the underlying desire that drives you to make those choices in the first place.

I had always thought I had loved myself, until someone asked me what actions do I take that are loving to myself? It was then I learnt that up until that point, I wasn’t very good at loving myself, and I soon realised that actively loving myself could actually help me achieve my goals faster.

Do you have a goal that you add to your list every year, but never seem to make any progress on it?

To understand the results we have in our lives, we first need to understand how our feelings impact the actions we take.

Changing my morning routine, had the single biggest impact on changing the rest of my day.