You are not broken
Lately, I’ve noticed a common message being pushed by businesses:
“We can fix you.”
The implication? That you’re broken.
I really struggle with this idea — because I don’t believe anyone is inherently broken.
Thinking we’re broken puts us in a position of powerlessness. And that mindset doesn’t help us grow — it keeps us stuck.
The truth is, life isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about evolving, uncovering patterns, and creating the life you want — from a place of self-awareness and empowerment.
Here’s what I’ve learned: when you believe you’re broken, you operate from a place of shame or defeat. And nothing productive or sustainable comes from that energy.
If you want lasting change, you need to create it from a grounded, intentional place.
Now, to be clear — this isn’t about “just think positive” or pretending everything is fine.
It’s about asking better questions:
What do I want to create in my life?
What’s getting in my way?
And what would need to change for me to move forward?
Here’s the hot tip:
Most of the time, the obstacles aren’t external.
They’re internal — the beliefs and patterns we’ve absorbed over the years that quietly shape how we act, feel, and show up.
For example, I used to think I was broken because I couldn’t stick to a weight loss plan.
That belief led to discouragement — and more emotional eating.
But when I shifted to: “I will figure this out,” I felt determined.
And that determination helped me take consistent action — which finally led to results.
The “I’m broken” narrative wasn’t just unhelpful — it was part of the problem.
And it’s not just about food or fitness.
We all carry thoughts we mistake for truth, like:
I’m too old to change
This is just who I am
I’m too busy
My stress is because of my partner/job/kids
Once I achieve [X], then things will be better
These aren’t facts. They’re beliefs — and they’re optional.
You don’t need to fix yourself.
But you do need to understand the internal blocks holding you back.
Here’s a simple place to start:
Pick one area of your life where you want change.
Now write down all the reasons you think you can’t change it.
What you’ll uncover is a list of limiting beliefs.
From there, you can start to explore new ways forward — not from a place of “fixing,” but from clarity, curiosity, and choice.
Change doesn’t come from believing you’re broken.
It comes from believing you’re capable — and then backing that belief with consistent action.
