Change is in the small steps we take each day
So often, my clients come to me feeling stuck. They’re ambitious, capable women — but despite having the knowledge, they can’t seem to create the change they deeply want. They’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, set the goals... but nothing sticks. They feel frustrated, exhausted, and often blame themselves.
But the truth is, real change isn’t about big breakthroughs or radical overhauls. It’s built in the tiny, consistent steps we take every day.
Let me give you a personal example.
For years, I wanted to build strength in my body. I had a regular yoga practice, but I wasn’t developing the muscle tone I was after. My lack of strength, especially in my arms, was even holding me back in progressing to more advanced postures.
I kept telling myself I could do strength training at home — I had the weights, I knew the exercises. But every day, I chose not to pick them up.
It wasn’t until I reviewed my goals one year and saw that “build strength” had been on the list for several years — without any real action — that something clicked. I realised it wasn’t a lack of knowledge that was holding me back. It was a lack of follow-through. A lack of determination.
So I asked myself, “What support do I need to actually follow through?”
And the answer was: structure and accountability. I joined a strength-based gym and committed to two sessions a week. I borrowed the determination of the trainers. I didn’t overthink it — I just showed up.
Over time, showing up became a habit. A routine. A new identity.
This is what sustainable change looks like. It’s not flashy. It’s not overnight. It’s one small action, repeated with intention.
So if there’s something you want to change — in your work, your relationships, your energy, your confidence — start by asking:
What result am I currently getting?
What actions are leading to that result?
Which one am I ready to shift?
Then choose one small action you can take consistently. Not for a week. Not until it “works.” But one that you can build into your life without an end date.
Because the moment we give ourselves a deadline — “I’ll do this until…” — we often subconsciously set ourselves up to quit. But if we choose something we know we can commit to, and we build the structures that help us stay determined, the change compounds.
It becomes who we are.
Yes, it can feel uncomfortable at first. Change often does. Your brain will resist — not because you’re doing it wrong, but because it’s different. But stick with it. The discomfort is just a signal that you’re creating something new.
Eventually, it won’t feel like effort. It will feel like you.
So this week, try this:
➡ Pick one new action.
➡ Make it small.
➡ Make it sustainable.
➡ Build in support and structure to follow through.
Because your life isn’t built in the big moments. It’s built in the small steps you take each day
