Why your feeling matter more than you think
The biggest influence on how we feel isn’t something outside of us — it’s how we think about what’s happening.
If we want to understand why we feel a certain way, we need to start by getting curious about the thoughts behind the emotion.
And here’s the good news:
Because our thoughts shape how we feel — and our feelings drive our actions — we actually have far more influence over our results than we realise.
Most of Us Are Moving Through the Day on Autopilot
We wake up, go through the motions, tick things off the to-do list — and yet, underneath it all, there’s often a hum of stress, resentment, guilt, or pressure.
You might feel overwhelmed but keep pushing through.
You might feel underappreciated but brush it off.
You might feel stuck or behind — and try to outwork the feeling instead of questioning it.
But when you take the time to pause and name what you’re actually feeling — and understand the thoughts driving those emotions — something powerful happens.
You stop reacting.
You start responding.
You gain back the ability to choose how you want to feel — and how you want to show up.
My Turning Point
For years, I thought I had to “keep it together” and just manage everything on my own. When I felt flat, discouraged, or burnt out, I’d tell myself I was just tired. Or that I should be able to handle it. Or that I was being dramatic.
But those feelings weren’t random. They were signals.
They were pointing me toward thoughts I hadn’t questioned — about what I believed success had to look like, what I thought others expected of me, and what I thought I had to do in order to be worthy, respected, or loved.
Once I started to explore those thoughts — and shift the way I spoke to myself — everything changed.
Not overnight, but piece by piece, I started backing myself instead of second-guessing.
Letting myself feel things instead of pushing them down.
And trusting that my emotions were information — not evidence that something was wrong with me.
Try This: The “Top 3” Feelings Exercise
We often underestimate how much our emotional state shapes our experience of life. This simple reflection can help you reconnect with yourself and assess whether your current emotional patterns are serving you.
Part 1: Your Current Emotional Landscape
What are the three most common feelings you experience on a daily basis?
Why do you feel this way?
How do you typically respond to each feeling (what do you do when you feel this way)?
What results are these feelings creating in your life?
Part 2: How You Want to Feel
What three feelings would you like to experience more often?
Why do you want to feel this way?
If you felt this way daily, how would your actions be different?
What results do you think that would create?
I hope this activity gives you a moment to pause, reflect, and reconnect.
Because when you understand your emotions — when you actually listen to what they’re telling you — you open the door to real change.
You don’t need to fix yourself.
You just need to pay attention.
